Ever Tried being Friends with Benefits?

Written by Biodun

09/15/2021 8:09 AM

In the ever-evolving 21st century, it would be weird to say there’s nothing we have not tried, from relationships to sexual adventures and even casual fantasies.


 Our minds are exploding with ways to have fun different from yesterday, even if it breeds trouble. Our generation and risk-taking are like handshakes, firm grips.


Casual fantasies got serious when we decided to try something less serious than relationships, zero commitments and endless pleasure. Yep, you guessed it, friends with benefits. What is the exact idea anyways?


In friends with benefits scenarios, you're just friends — friends who hang out and sometimes have sex/be intimate with each other.


 People who are friends with benefits may be free to date other people. The physical stuff they do is usually “no strings attached”— they're not necessarily committed to each other. See why our minds are explosive?

If you ever considered friendship with benefits, keep it in mind that no one can get hurt, it’s no strings attached. It is, however, a safe space for sexual companionship with a great person.


Now you get the clause, it’s 100% possible that one or both parties develop an attraction, so be prepared for that.


When two people discover sexual tension within and have a valid fear of a serious relationship destroying the already existing friendship, there's a solution.


 A romantic situation with no commitments helps to discover how dating would work out for both parties.


Yet, the endless debate of a guy and girl being friends without feelings developing has not been settled, so what’s the actual probability that friends with benefits don’t develop feelings?

In such relationships, when one person begins to date, it might be hard for the other to let go and might even begin to feel cheated.


 One person may desire a long-lasting strong relationship, while the other might prefer the benefits situation. Hence a feeling of hurt, withdrawal and betrayal could develop, it would all even seem like a break-up, hence destroying the friendship itself.


It's also sensible to think about the possibility of staying friends with the level of intimacy turned up a notch, sexual relationships can result in a million different situations that were not predicted from the start.


It's best to acknowledge in advance what this new intimacy could become over time, but there’s no harm in trying it out. You might just be the right person all along.


Before you take that leap due to attraction or a new sexual discovery, have a sincere conversation on how to handle uprisings in the relationship and stick to it. Besides it, have all the fun possible and give a good review for curious minds.


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