Her presence made heads turn, she was gorgeous to behold. She entered the room with so much poise and grace, with her long black braids and her head held high she waltzed on with so much confidence. The clicking of her heels added some soft melodious tone to the rhythm of the song being played, the speakers might be loud but her shoes were definitely singing along. Her eyes scanned the room with strength and determination, she smiled as she kept walking and that smile would definitely make even the stars jealous.
Charles could not take his eyes off her, “who is this hot and sexy woman?” he searched his mind but there was something about her that made him want to get acquainted with her, her beauty was captivating but there was more to this lady that made heads turn.
He had visited the club that day because he had a long day and he needed to relax, he had called his best friend Jimmy but he bailed out because he had an official meeting he needed to prepare for but Charles knew he needed to relax with Jimmy or not.
This goddess who just walked in was something else and he needed to have a conversation with her so Charles dropped his drink and went to say hi to this pretty woman. That was the beginning of their love story.
As Charles sat in his office to ruminate about his relationship with Susan, today makes it 7 months since she caught his attention at the club that night. They started dating two weeks later and she was the best thing that happened to him two months after the relationship started.
The relationship was fun in the beginning but right now it is a disaster. Susan was fast becoming irritable, she nags and complains about everything he does. They don’t see eye to eye on issues, they can’t enjoy each other’s company and the only thing working in the relationship is the sex but Charles wanted more, he wanted a woman he can build his future with, a woman who supports him and not a just a woman who is good in bed.
He loved her, theirs was love at first sight, the connection was so strong but right now he is frustrated. He knows Susan loves him and she could be so protective and her self-esteem is very low, she is always threatened when she sees him having a conversation with a female especially when she is more beautiful and he can’t picture a future with her.
Charles wished he had patiently pursued Susan and got to know the real person but right now he had to just keep pushing but he was not sure how long he could go on with this relationship.
Relationships are very exciting especially at the beginning but who says it can’t always stay that way? Life was not designed to be managed and relationships should be not be endured. Like Charles, a lot of us meet this particular person and we find the chemistry but we don’t patiently get to meet the personality.
Chemistry is important but it takes more than chemistry to build a relationship. Beyond the chemistry, you need to check for compatibility. Love and compatibility are not the same, love is a feeling, it is a deeper emotion you feel for somebody. Loving someone will make your heart skip a beat when they pass, it will give you butterflies in your stomach but compatibility is about enjoying each other’s company, it’s about having the same views and believing in each other’s dreams and goals.
Love and compatibility are needed to establish a good relationship after you find the chemistry take your time to understand if you both are compatible. When you meet that person who makes your heart skip and gives you butterflies in your stomach then it is important that you take your time to know the person and check if you are compatible.
Friendship is the foundation upon which a relationship is built, while you are feeling that love at first sight patiently pursue and get to know the person you are about to deal with. Truth is, you will keep discovering new things about your partner even in marriage but it is important that you build the right foundation.